A lot of people are down, depressed, stressed, overwhelmed and just overall unhappy. I was once this person. I was strapped down by the negative beliefs that my life was what it was and I didn't really have a chance to be as happy as I should or should I be real and say I felt as though I didn't deserve it.  I felt this way because this is what I learned to believe. I learned to feel like the only way to be okay was to accept that struggle was the final destination and that sweeping your feelings and traumas under the rug was most effective. This left me feeling a void even after a moment of fun or happiness I never could feel fully happy. I always thought in the back of my mind that things were too good to be true (when something good came) and  that's just the way things would be. 

Let me explain something. That did not feel good at all. It felt horrible. Imagine going through your days expecting something to go wrong in some form of fashion (many of you can relate) even when you wanted them to go right. As I got older, maybe around 25 years old (about 10 years ago) I started to tap into positive and inspiring things as I once had playing basketball most of my life. I went back to the fundamentals of what helped me be a great basketball player, only this time I started to talk to the deeper me. Not just the me, that covered up the hurt and wanted to be the greatest chick ball player around, but that hurt little girl in me. I had to make things right so I started with my thoughts. 

It wasn't easy at all. In fact, it took to me until recently to truly truly and I mean truly tap into my inner being. I had to be real about wanting to be better. I had to make peace with my inner hurt girl and I knew that I had to figure out a way to love her and help her heal. I've always been a giver with a big heart. I started to shift my giving (not for obligatory purposes) but with good intentions and help people who really needed my help. It started with getting involved in the community and serving through my time and then it lead to physically gathering others and getting out on the streets feeding the homeless, giving out coats in the winter to giving much needed love notes and hugs just because. The more I tapped into giving to others, it helped me discover more of me, love more of me and tell that hurt girl inside of me that ALL IS WELL. 

At 35 years old, I am open to more of me. I am spiritually transforming into the divine vessel I was destined to be. I have so many more days of happiness, joy, gratitude and eagerness to give more! The more you give to yourself the better your life will be. There will be detachments from many, but the attachment of the parts internally for you, now that's life changing. 

Love Yourself. Be Kind to Yourself. Heal Yourself and Pay it Forward.

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We all know negative people can be a hassle. It can be tiresome and just draining dealing with negative people who always have pessimistic views and just complain about everything. The easy thing to do would be for me to tell you to just avoid them all in all, but realistically in some situation or another we will find ourselves interacting with someone negative.  

Look, let's be completely honest with ourselves. We all have been negative in some form or fashion and I am sure it may have made someone else feel a certain type of way about us. None of us are perfect and life happens. This causes us to react to bad situations in our lives by giving life to the bad feeling which is typically why toxic behaviors occur. I am saying this to say, show compassion. I am not by far saying, allow anyone to mistreat you or be disrespectful to you, but in most cases people need to be heard. They just want to vent and that's okay. Many of them usually just need a word of encouragement to help them feel better. Get a feel for them and just be compassionate. 

Now, there are others that completely are just stuck in the habitual bubble of negativity. What I have learned to understand about people like this (especially adults) is that they haven't developmentally grown up. They haven't faced their inner self and allowed the healing process to take place for whatever they have gone through. They are still in a child like state of victimization.  We all have traumatic or just life altering adversities that have taken place in our lives. It is truly up to us to reprogram and heal from it.  If you come across these types of individuals, show compassion, but disassociate yourself from them. Do NOT and I mean DO NOT get caught up in their negative bubble. You can find yourself drained and pissed off if you do and that's not what you want.

My final piece of advice is to let people be. We all have something we are dealing with and yes we have a choice to decide if we are going to be positive or negative about it. Most have NOT reached a level of positive thinking, and so you shouldn't take it personal. I wouldn't put energy towards someone else's choice to be toxic. Let them be and you keep it moving with nothing but love in your heart. This way you stay pretty grounded and you can keep your frequency high. 

I hope you all enjoyed this Dee'Tox moment. I am always here to offer advice and positive support, and again thanks for allowing me to aid in helping you Heal into a Happy Life!

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Releasing Fear is not always easy for us. Let me offer a fresh perspective in regards to Fear. Fear is apart of us. It honestly, just wants to be satisfied. It's that insecure part of you that's telling yourself all the negative things, which makes you feel doubt and then you began to self sabotage. Let's dive a little deeper. why are we afraid of what we afraid of? Take for instance a person who has a fear of planes and has never been on a plane. Maybe they have seen bad things on the news from plane crashes or never really travels by planes and already has this limited belief that planes are bad. 

We deprive ourselves before we allow ourselves. We have to let go of the false stories we have created. We have to be open to going deeper psychologically as to why we feel the way we do. What does the fear look like, what does it feel like, what does it sound like, etc. Once we understand why the fear is there, we can start re-writing a new story. Invite fear into a world of confidence, a world of security, start feeling good, start seeing great things ahead instead of focusing on the bad. 

So, change your mind. You can make the choice right now to see things in a more positive light. You can choose to invite fear to walk into uncertainty positively or you can allow fear to be a ball of negative, spiraling out of control energy that keeps you  from experiencing some of the greatest moments in your life.  The choice is yours! 

At least love yourself enough to try! You will be happy you did regardless of the outcome. But I bet $50 that the outcome will always work out for you!

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