Hey loves! Now, ya'll know we are about to go deep for a second and get real. That's usually my first step to healing. You have to face yourself to know yourself. It's a must that you do this. Let me explain why! We feel pain, we feel hurt and we feel all types of feelings that can either hold us captive in our minds or they can set us free. Before you deal with all the emotions that comes with grief (killing the old you), You have to be ready to stand in your truth. I say stand in truth because if you truly desire to heal, you have to get real about the pain.
The pain isn't easy, I get that and we all know it hurts, but there is beauty in all of this...ya'll ready to explore or should I say Dee'Tox with me? Okay! So, I will start with how I got to a place of healing and self-love. Like many of you, I didn't want to look at myself because it was easier to hide and run away, BUT it really wasn't easy. It got harder on my soul the more I ran. I ran from myself because I was ashamed, I felt guilt, I felt fragile and I felt like I had allowed myself to be treated and hurt by allowing unforgiveness, the loss of my father (abandonment thinking), and trauma from my childhood to stay imprisoned in my mind.
You must understand that your thoughts become feelings and the feelings will soon become attracted to you and more of that will keep showing up in your life. It isn't until you find yourself in a submissive position ready to allow your higher self to take over, that you experience the SHIFT! I experienced this last November. I was going through a storm of growth and I wasn't in a good place. It was right before my 35th birthday and I could feel something and couldn't control it. I didn't know what or why, but I knew that I was ready to fully give in to God and live out my soul's purpose and I knew exactly what I had to do. I had already been in the process of healing, but this time I knew it was going to be very different for me. As afraid as I was I had to make a choice to let go and let God (or the universe) lead.
It's insane how we keep ourselves from the best part of us because we have believed the negative stories we've told ourselves (I am not good enough, I can't, etc.). Those negative stories are false. They have no truth to them and when you get real with yourself you will find out that you can write a new, more exciting and LIFE filled story full of happiness. BUT first, let me get real with ya'll, those growing pains don't feel the best, but they will pass. I promise they will. Your soul has to re-construct and Dee'Tox from all the toxins that's been depleting it. It is imperative that you go through the process knowing that you are going to come out not just stronger, but better and that you will begin to write a new story for your life.
The best way to do this is to start replacing all of those negative thoughts with positive thoughts the moment you feel them coming on. This has to be a daily practice. Start looking at yourself and loving yourself. I like to do a mirror activity that I call, "Let's Get Real" and this activity is designed to have you not just look at yourself physically, but go deeper. I have my clients use a hand held mirror, draw a self-discovering question out of my "Let's Get Real" jar and really talk to that reflection. It's empowering because SHIT really does get real. But once you face it and you feel it, more of that toxicity sheds. It's like peeling back thick layers and feeling lighter.
You truly deserve to be lighter and happy. When you start to shift into being a better you, there will be a transformation. You won't allow things you once allowed that hurt or took power over you because you now have the power. And as you heal you will discover that the negative actions or opinions of others has absolutely nothing to do with you. An unhealed person can or will find offense in everything someone does. You get to choose each day, which one you will be. If you choose to be healed, then you choose to be happy.
Remember, you and happiness belong together. I love you all and I hope you continue to allow me to help you heal into a HAPPY life.